How Not to be a Jerk!!!

Posted by Dennis on October 03, 2012 | 10 Comments »

Posted in: Dating and Courtship, Manhood

 

“Don’t assume.”

That’s often the advice given to women that when a man is nice to her, it doesn’t mean he’s into her. TRUE. But, I do want to point out that a woman will likely end up getting confused when a nice young man pops into her life, or someone known to her starts doing one or more of the following: communicating with her daily whether through text/call/chat, asking her to hang out alone, telling her she’s missed, constantly complimenting her, surprising her, etc. I’m not saying don’t be a gentleman, or that women shouldn’t use wisdom in relating with men (that’s a whole other issue). In fact, the examples I have given may even be a bit extreme. All I’m saying is that, guys, your actions, touch, especially your words and attention, speak VOLUMES to women! A young lady out there might already be struggling not to fall for you because she “can’t assume,” even though she’s been trying her best to be wise in guarding her heart!

The bible says to treat “…women as sisters, in ALL purity” (1 Timothy 5:2)! ALL!! That includes emotional purity, which is one of the hardest issues that most women struggle with! Again, women should at all cost do their part in guarding their emotional purity. However, men, you have a big part in helping your sisters out. By how? By treating them as sisters, as true princesses, as the brides of Christ! Just like you, we are chosen, royal, and holy, destined to proclaim the praises of Him Who has called us out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9).

So boys, man up!

If you’re into her, don’t flirt with her; pursue her. You are called to lead and the best way to start is being persistent in prayer. Have a plan. Ask the tough questions to yourself first before doing anything. Be wise in your words and in your actions. Be truthful with her. Don’t even allow her to get confused by doing special things to and with her without telling her how you feel. Be consistent and let the Lord guide you in the pursuit.

If you like her but aren’t ready to be in a relationship that will potentially lead to marriage, then stop right there. Don’t you start building anything special with this girl thinking you’ll commit when you’re ready. Be a genuine friend and brother and let the Lord map out the course of this genuine friendship.

If you don’t like her, but find yourself liking the benefits this no commitment thing is giving you, please stop. Go get the emotional fulfillment from God and not from this poor girl. And please, don’t pull the “don’t assume” card on her! Don’t be a jerk!

After living in California for 8 years, Sonjia took a giant leap of faith to leave her nursing career behind, and move back to Manila in 2010 to pursue her first love, acting. Since then, Sonjia has acted on tv, film, stage, and commercials. Follow her on twitter at www.twitter.com/sonjiacalit. Like her page on Facebook at www.facebook.com/sonjiacalitofficial and check her blog out at www.sonjiacalit.wordpress.com


 

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Dennis Sy is the editor in chief of Act Like a Man and the Senior Pastor of Victory Greenhills. Husband to Thammie Sy, and father to three wonderful kids. You can follow his tweets @DennisSy or follow him in Facebook. Dennis is also the author of the best selling book, " Rich for Life: Secrets of Those Who Stayed Rich for Life and How You Can be One


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10 Comments on “How Not to be a Jerk!!!”

  1. 1 How not to be a Jerk! « byheartbysoul said at 9:50 pm on October 4th, 2012:

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  2. 2 What Women Want Men to Know | Act Like a Man said at 8:45 am on October 5th, 2012:

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  4. 4 Don’t assume! | Actress. Dreamer. Jesus Follower. said at 9:09 am on October 8th, 2012:

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  5. 5 Don’t assume! | refocus said at 9:27 pm on October 9th, 2012:

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  6. 6 on emotional purity | refocus said at 9:27 pm on October 9th, 2012:

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  7. 7 Nathan said at 4:35 am on October 16th, 2012:

    Grrrrr.. I lost count how many times the word “Stop!” was written on this article…. I was just trying to make pa-cute to my crush.. Is that a crime??? pambihira!!! hehe

  8. 8 Bob Lennart said at 7:41 pm on November 6th, 2012:

    I guess by the standard set here, there are too many jerks already. But it is never too late for men. The decision is still on our hands. Either we stay a jerk or be a true man of God.

    Another reason why some men are termed as ‘jerk’ is because they know they like the woman but are too afraid of rejection so they stay in the limbo side.. no commitment but close enough.. (that might be another topic though)

    Anyways, to the men (that includes me.).. MAN UP!

    :)

  9. 9 Don’t Assume | Cord of 3 Strands said at 11:59 pm on December 4th, 2012:

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