Should I allow a non-Christian to court me?
Posted by Dennis on August 10, 2011 | 3 Comments »Posted in: Question and Answer, Relationships
Pastor Dennis, should I allow a non-Christian to court me?
The easy answer is no. Now some would want an explanation why thus the reason for this question.
Most of us Christians tend to think of laws that we live by. Laws are good and it guides us. I have made certain boundaries and standards as a single that I will not court someone of a different faith but it is not because the law says so but because I know that doing so would violate God’s heart.
As a single man/ woman, we first have to settle the main issue of who we are already in Christ. Most compromise or lower their standard because they feel that they are incomplete if they are not pursued, courted or are courting someone. It is the classic “YOU COMPLETE ME” thing that happens in our heart. We are in search of the ONE that might complete us. Some Christians even labeled it as GPC or God’s perfect choice which I think is a myth.
To the one who ask this question, I want to throw back a simple question – are you already complete even if you don’t have a boyfriend/ girlfriend? Do you find your completeness in Christ or do you still think that you need a special someone to complete you.
So the question is not whether I should allow a non-Christian to court me but rather what is my motivation that I would start entertaining suitors?
- is it to feel loved, accepted, adored?
- is it so I could achieve completeness?
- is it because of peer pressure. Everybody is having a relationship while I remain a single?
Many people don’t have lasting relationships when they treat their boyfriend/ girlfriend as their source of joy, happiness, contentment, fulfillment and completeness. Only Christ can do that. Only Christ can play that role.
On the practical side, entertaining someone who is not of the same faith and passion as you have for Christ would create a lot of tension in the relationship.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15
14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
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OMG! Sapol sobra Pastor Dennis! thank you so much for this blog post!
Why is there a distinction between Christians and non-Christians? Our God has set 10 basic rules. Then His priests added another 10 thousand. Their ‘god’ basically did the same.. and their priests added maybe more. Due to our closed minds, we have been fighting so much over who is the true ‘God,’ what His name is, or who are more righteous. What if we really do have one ‘God’ but when those people of old times passed to later generations these ‘rules’ and added a bit of their own saying it was ‘His’ words, then what would result? A situation we are in now.
If we all look at it in a way that respects his/her beliefs as he/she respects ours, then why does it matter if you have a partner that doesn’t share the same sets of belief you do? Surely there will be conflict in tradition, and it will never be easy, but it would be so beautiful if indeed a couple could show the world that even if on different religions, we could still live together as one.
For me, religion is a set of rules that aims to guide the people to a path where their actions are good, right, and fitting, no matter what you call this religion.
Hi I appreciate your comment, but this pastor I believe, is not blogging about religion but about having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Being a Christian is not about entering a religion. You are right, many preachers have twisted the meaning of Christianity and built this “religion thing”. But the exact thought of this blog is to glorify and love God since you have already entered into a relationship with HIM (being a Christian). If you love somebody you will do your best not to break his/her heart. It is neither about following set of rules because of the fear of punishment nor delight for the reward but rather you love God.