Fully Known and Fully Loved

To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.

- Tim Keller

It is a constant thing that I encounter whether in my email or message inbox. Is it okay to court someone who is not of the same faith. I have answered it twice already in this blog – here and here

You see more than whether we will be married in a temple, a Catholic church or a Christian church is not the issue. The main thing that would create the most tension are the values that you hold. A man who says he is a Christian swears allegiance to God and lives out his life according to God’s principle, grace and love. To have a spouse who does not hold the same value that you value would create A WHOLE LOT of TENSION.

I’ve heard it, seen it and it does not look good. Either the two will disagree in almost everything because of the different perspective or one compromises his faith to “make the relationship work”. The problem is that apart from Christ it cannot work the way it is supposed to work. And I’m not saying being a Christian is a guarantee that it will work. It is to know and experience GOD beyond religion and to know that God who is infinite in knowledge knows all of my sin and my thoughts and secrets and still choose to live me. To experience AGAPE love that the world cannot match. Only Christ can give that. Only a person who has experienced God’s love and forgiveness can dish out a love like that because his source is not his own reservoir of love but on the glorious riches of Christ’s love for us.

So to answer the question again whether a couple of different faith can work – I actually doubt it.

About Dennis

Dennis Sy is the editor in chief of Act Like a Man and the Senior Pastor of Victory Greenhills. Husband to Thammie Sy, and father to two beautiful girls. You can follow his tweets @DennisSy or follow him in Facebook. Dennis is also the author of the best selling book, " Rich for Life: Secrets of Those Who Stayed Rich for Life and How You Can be One